Eating Crow with Trudy Lee

Trudy Lee was one of the four "Collateral damage" folk I targeted in my moving down the road that leads to forgiveness. When my contract was not renewed at the University, she was overtly pleased because that meant that she could take over my development contacts and her numbers were sure to go up plus the fact that she would not have to "develop" them into contacts for the University. She never said goodbye or kiss my foot or zilch. I had taken her under my wing years earlier when she came to the University not knowing squat about development and mentored her big time. I thought her lack of gratitude left a lot to be desired.

But I emailed her and asked her to lunch which she quickly accepted. I am certain, in retrospect, that she wanted to be able to tell everyone that we had lunched and all the news. But we did go out and we talked on a level of superficiality plus a little extra.

I still think it was worth doing. I made an effort. Nothing was solved but nothing was ruined by the effort. I can't think of a thing that was said that could ease my forgiveness deal with her. But Daddy used to say that he thought you got credit for the things you wanted to do; not just what you did. I hope that he is right.

I wanted to make four calls and I made those 4 contacts. Two responded and two did not. I cannot say whether I made better attempts at forgivenes with the responses or non-responses.

Who knows! But I tried.