Meeting the enemy...again!

I leave tomorrow for Cincinnati to face my ex-husband again for the second time this summer. Our grand daughter, Bailey, is getting married. Let's see, this is the girl that was born on the day that he had the sheriff deliver divorce papers! Yes, that is a happy memory to me! But, I must not linger. I must let by-gones be by-gones.

The truth is I must. This is too long and too happy an occasion to mess with it mentally. Klein writes: "A crucial step in the path toward forgiveness happens when we convince ourselves that what is important to us is important enough to risk whatever reaction we may face." I did this last week when I went to Charleston and I can do it again in Cincinnati. If I do it without sincerity, who is the wiser! I still do it!

I have to walk down the aisle with him in a facade of togetherness. So what! The problem is that I let him have the influence on me to ruin things for me. So he is still getting to me. And I am letting him!

I must meet the enemy again, true. But I do not have to let him get to me. That is the only way that he becomes the enemy...again!