Death of Janet Stewart Lohr

Jan Lohr died this morning. We were long-time friends and had walked in a lot of the same paths over the years. Her husband was a football coach and finally moved to the head spot at the University where I worked as well as my ex-husband. Both of them had played football together on the University team many years before.

Then my husband left me and married another woman. I was crushed. No one was angrier at his conduct than Jim Lohr. Then, a few years later, Jim did the same thing. Jan and I shared a common bond of knowing what humiliation and sorrow were and we talked each other through it all. I tried to move on. In some ways, most ways, I did.

Jan could not seem to jump that hurdle or move the ball. Perhaps it was the beginnings of Alzheimer's that were stirring within her but she could not get the subject of her being deceived out of her mind. Some of her friends thought that the anger would never leave her again. She was soon past the point of ever forgiving him. And there it sat.

Her two sons tried to understand but to understand meant that they had to form a judgment or an attachment that she wanted broken forever with their father. I pray for them all but mostly, today, I hope that she has found her peace.